ネイティブの英文で英語表現を覚えよう！　036 愛は条件のもとで成り立つ

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キーワード	発音記号	意味
unconditional	/ˌʌnkənˈdɪʃənəl/	無条件の
Romantic and otherwise	/roʊˈmæntɪk ənd ˈʌðərwaɪz/	恋愛的な、またはそれ以外の
humanity	/hjuːˈmænəti/	人類、人間性、思いやり
keep up with this lie	/kiːp ʌp wɪð ðɪs laɪ/	この嘘に付き合い続ける
thrive	/θraɪv/	繁栄する、成長する
every shred of	/ˈevri ʃred əv/	～のほんのわずかなかけら、～の微塵
rot	/rɒt/	腐る、堕落する
a therapeutic ideal	/ə ˌθerəˈpjuːtɪk aɪˈdiːəl/	治療的な理想
contempt	/kənˈtempt/	軽蔑、侮辱
a hollow ritual	/ə ˈhɒloʊ ˈrɪtʃuəl/	空虚な儀式、形骸化した儀式
cynical	/ˈsɪnɪkəl/	皮肉な、懐疑的な
cheapen	/ˈtʃiːpən/	価値を下げる、安っぽくする
stewardship	/ˈstjuːərdʃɪp/	管理責任、委託管理
sacred	/ˈseɪkrɪd/	神聖な、尊い
lesser	/ˈlesər/	より少ない、より劣った

Love is extremely conditional

Love from a parent or sibling is the only chance of experiencing unconditional love. Romantic and otherwise are very conditional and I don’t know how long humanity can keep up with this lie. Maybe other lies will continue to thrive but everyday the world gets shown how much we really don’t love genuinely. It’s all about what a person has to offer or how they make you feel. Once they no longer provide those things, it’s over. I mean how much proof do we need. I know there are people out there in relationships now that are going to disagree with this at the moment lol. If you think I’m wrong that’s fine, I just hope whatever that person is providing to you doesn’t disappear.

回答者１

You are right about something most people are too scared to admit: love is conditional. It always has been. It always will be. Even the love between parents and children, the purest form we know, has limits. If a parent abuses a child long enough, the bond breaks. If a child abandons every shred of respect and loyalty, even the strongest family ties can rot. Carl Rogers called it “unconditional positive regard,” but that was a therapeutic ideal, not a description of how actual, living human relationships survive in the real world.

The truth is that conditions are not the enemy of love. They are the foundation of it. They give it shape, meaning, and value. If love were truly unconditional, if it survived any amount of betrayal, violence, neglect, or contempt, it would not be love. It would be slavery. It would be a hollow ritual, not a living connection between two people choosing each other again and again.

Learning to live with this truth does not mean becoming cynical. It means becoming wise. It means recognizing that love is earned, not through perfection, but through loyalty, respect, kindness, and effort. It means that every day you stay, every day you choose to give and receive with open hands and an open heart, you are making something sacred that could be destroyed, and you are choosing not to destroy it. That fragility does not cheapen love. It makes it real. It makes it alive.

You asked, how do we live with it? First, stop asking love to be perfect. Stop demanding it to survive every blow without scar or consequence. Respect the conditions that protect it: honesty, loyalty, effort, trust, growth. Honor those conditions, and expect them to be honored back. Understand that the end of love, if it comes, is not always a failure. Sometimes it is the cost of living in a world where choices matter.

Second, choose partners, friends, tribes who understand the same truth. Do not build your life on the fantasy that love will save you no matter what you do. Build it on mutual stewardship of something precious, knowing that it can die, knowing that it is worth protecting because it can die.

Finally, stop seeing conditional love as fragile. Start seeing it as sacred. Start seeing it as the most powerful thing two imperfect people can offer each other:

I choose you today, knowing full well I could walk away, but I do not. I stay. I fight. I build. And so do you.

That is not lesser love. That is the only love that was ever real to begin with.

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https://www.reddit.com/r/Life/comments/1k9sdv9/love_is_extremely_conditional/